‘Whatever you are, be a good one’

He waited.

It shouldn’t have surprised me. But it did.

He’d been talking about it for several years, but the answer was always the same: he would teach for just one more year.

And then another school year would pass and I would ask if he was going to retire.

No, just one more year.

So as the school year was winding down this year, I didn’t even bother to ask my father if he was going to retire. Because, well, I guess I just assumed.

And because he waited.

He waited until everyone else had announced their retirement. He waited until after the annual retirement reception. He waited until he knew there would be no hoop-la, no recognition, no swingin’ soiree. He waited until almost the very last moment to do it.

I remember walking into my parents’ house after work one day earlier this summer and he sheepishly announced that he had retired. I was speechless.

After serving for 35 years in the same position, in the same building, for the same school district, my father, Ron Eckerson, retired from the Maryville R-II School District as the vocational resource educator at the Northwest Technical School.

He was hired in 1976 as the job sample/special needs teacher at what was then called the Maryville Area Vocation Technical School. He also spent 25 years coaching, both cross country and track (and even one year of soccer), and assisted with the FACT Club. And, he worked during the summers as part of the maintenance crew, painting, refinishing floors and getting the building ready for each new school year.

More than all of his titles and responsibilities, over the past 35 years, my dad has been an influence for good for hundreds of students, athletes, co-workers, parents and community members.

He’s taken students on FACT Club trips all over the country. And he’s attended hundreds of games, meets, matches, concerts and events.

Ronnie — as some of my friends called him when he was our track coach — always has a smile on his face and a friendly wave or hello which accompanies his very dry sense of humor.

Looking back, I’ve learned a lot from the example he set through his teaching years.

He’s a very hard worker and he’s always dependable. He hardly ever missed a day of work, amassing over 300 sick days. And when he was there, he was always willing to help others out with whatever was needed.

He also deeply cares about people and is one of the most patient people I know.

His announcement — or non-announcement as it was — also brought back a flood of memories of him at the Tech School…

When we would go out to visit him as small kids, Charlie Ware would give us M&Ms to eat from the “school store” every time we’d stop by.

Playing “Where in the World is Carmen San Diego” on the computer in his room.

Turning the knobs of the vice on his work table, just one of his many “cool” building trades tools he had for his students.

Walking down the dark hallways when we were there after hours or when we were watching a ballgame on TV.

The smell of motor oil in the auto mechanics shop.

The area schools’ mascots painted on the walls.

And then the people. So many people who my dad worked with and who became friends, and some, even more like family.

He outlasted all of his vo-tech colleagues, the ones I remember from my childhood, and even many that I remember from my high school years.

Those who are there today wrote some of the kindest words to him after he retired (after they’d recovered from the shock of him leaving)…

“Thanks for all you have done for NTS and its students throughout the years. You will be missed.”

“You will be sorely missed by me and all the hard work and how responsible you are. I never had to worry that the work would be done and done right.”

“Thank you for all your years of hard work. You will be missed.”

“A word of thanks is not enough.”

“Our hearts are full of happiness for you but sadness for us and all the kids that we will have next year. You are loved and missed already.”

“It’s been a joy working with you.”

“Thank you so much for all you have done for me through the years. I already miss you!”

“I thought you were going to wait on me. But you didn’t! Good luck in anything you do. We will definitely miss you.”

His years as a teacher — and everything else that he was during that time — reminds me of a quote by Abraham Lincoln, who said, “Whatever you are, be a good one.”

That’s my dad. He’s been “a good one” … a good example, a good teacher, a good friend… to so many over the past 35 years.

            By the way, dad, I know you’ll hate that I did this, but I couldn’t resist. Thanks for who you are and all you do.


A day in the life of … a dairy farmer

“Come on, girls.” He whistles, pounds a piece of plastic piping on the barn’s concrete floor and calls them again. “Come on.”

The cows move from the milking equipment out into the field and 64-year-old Richard Groves slides the lever to let four more come into the barn and clangs it back shut.

I arrived a few minutes before 6 am and he walked out of the barn to meet me with a gentle smile and handshake. Rough farmer hands, but friendly. He apologized for having me out so early to his farm northwest of Graham, where he had already rounded up the cows from the field.

“We don’t start as early as some,” he said. “I’m not a morning person. I’d rather work all night long than get up early.”

But such is the life of a dairy farmer.

“It’s a good life,” he says, “but it’s a hard life.”

Crossing the gravel road through the dust my car stirred up moments before, the scent of freshly cut hay also lingers in the air. Inside the barn, steps lead down to where Groves moves efficiently to do the morning milking, with equipment straddling his work area on both the north and south sides of the building.

5:59 am: he turns a knob on a panel and releases feed from galvanized chutes, swings the lever to open the gate and brings four cows in on the north side of the barn, then closes it again. He pulls off five or six giant paper towels from a large roll hanging near the machinery, tears one off and shoves the others into the front pocket of his jeans.

He reaches for a bottle filled with a semi-transparent solution, walks over to the first cow and dips each teat into the container to kill any bacteria. He uses the paper towel to wipe them down and squirts a little milk out of each one.

He then proceeds to hook them up to the milking unit, which includes cups that remove the milk, milker claws where milk pools momentarily as it is removed, vacuum tubes that suction it through the pipes and a pulsator that regulates the cycle.

6:04 am: as soon as he finishes the north side, he spins around, whips open the gate on the south side, turns the knob to release more feed and brings in four more cows.

And the process of dipping, wiping, squirting and hooking them up begins again.

‘Jerseys on this place’

Groves has lived on this same land his entire life.

“I grew up right here,” he said. “My grandfather registered his first Jersey in 1897.”

He started as a young boy helping his dad and his granddad.

“There have been Jerseys on this place ever since I can remember,” he says while turning around to check on his first four.

6:08 am: he grabs another bottle, filled with a deep reddish-brown colored solution – iodine – to prevent disease. He unhooks the first four cows, dips the teats into the iodine solution, then prods the cows through the barn and out into the field.

6:12 am: he releases more feed with a quick turn, clangs the lever and brings in four more on the north. He closes the gate and then starts the process of unhooking the four on the south and releasing them out into the field.

6:14 am: knob turns, feed drops, cows eye it… waiting to be let in. He turns around and starts hooking up the ones on the north.

He moves effortlessly throughout the barn wearing boots, jeans and a brown T-shirt that reads “Milk Rules — there aren’t any.”

His dairy operation is one of only four left in Nodaway County, including the one run by Northwest Missouri State University.

And he said there are several reasons why he believes that is the case – the high costs of keeping up the farm and cattle, the swings in milk and feed prices and all of the rules and regulations they must follow. Plus, it’s a just plain, hard work.

‘one of the most tested products’

“We’re milking 56 head,” he says, which takes about an hour and 45 minutes to two hours to milk them all.

The process of milking each one, however, takes just a few minutes. From the milking unit, the milk travels through pipes and into a receiving jar and bulk tank.

Groves said they keep the milk at a 35 to 37 degree temperature and it gets picked up every other day by Robert’s Dairy in Kansas City. In that two-day timespan, they produce 3,500 pounds of milk.

“We’re down from what we were, but it’s starting to pick back up,” he said.

6:16 am: four more come in on the south, while several others wait right outside the barn, peeking through the gate, ready to get in.

6:23 am: north side off and out into the field.

Groves, who also serves on the Dairy Herd Improvement Association board, said the milk is bought by the Dairy Farmers of America.

“When the driver picks it up, he keeps a sample and it’s all tested,” he said. “Milk is probably one of the most tested products to make sure it’s safe for the consumer.”

Their facilities are also inspected every three to five months, overseen by the state milk board.

6:26 am: four more come in on the north.

6:29 am: the south ones go out.

For as hot and unbearable as the summer sun and humid heat can be on a farmer, the bone-chilling winters the Midwest is known for can be especially tough on a dairy farmer.

“When the weather’s real bad, you’re out (nearly) all day long,” he said.

The cows are kept inside, he said, which requires more work than when they’re left out in the field.

6:30 am: south ones in and hooked up.

6:32 am: north ones off and out.

The consistent flow of animals in and out of the stalls is surrounded by the repetitive, rhythmic sucking sounds, an exhaust fan whirring round and round above our heads, cows flicking flies with their tails as they buzz around and birds chirping outside the barn.

6:34 am: south ones out and four more in.

6:37 am: north ones also come in.

‘enjoy working with the cattle’

He and his wife, Sue, have one daughter, Sherry Schniedermeyer. She and her husband, Steve, who is the FFA advisor at Nodaway-Holt, have two sons, Steven and Cody. They both show livestock for 4-H and FFA and all travel to the Missouri, Iowa and Nebraska State Fairs.

“The boys had the Grand Champion cow in the (Missouri) State Fair last year,” he said. “And the same cow was the Grand Reserve Supreme at the Nebraska State Fair.”

6:41 am: the south side cows are unhooked and sent out.

6:45 am: he looks to bring in more, calls out to them, but nothing… “Looks like I’ll have to go get a bunch,” he says.

6:52 am: Groves releases the ones on the north side and heads out into the field to find the remaining cows.

While it’s a cool, breezy, not-quite summer morning with rain clouds looming in the distance, the sun starts to beat down on his balding head. As he walks through the field, guiding them into the barn, his gentle smile sneaks through, surrounded by his gray, woolly beard.

This man loves his animals. And his life.

“I enjoy working with the cattle,” he said. “You have to like working with the animals or you’re not going to do this work.”

And, he said, there’s always something new to learn.

“In the dairy business, you never stop learning. And you have to really like what you’re doing to make it work.”

7:08 am: back inside the barn, Groves drops more feed, smiles and says, “I had one where she wasn’t supposed to be.” He brings in four on the north side and the process begins again.

7:11 am: south side in.

7:16 am: north side out.

7:18 am: north side in.

Altogether, Groves said they have around 175 cows and heifers (a young cow that has not produced a calf yet), and most of which have been raised on their farm. But they also buy one or two each year from different blood lines.

And they all have different personalities.

“Some like to be rubbed down,” he said. “And others like to be left alone.”

7:20 am: three on the south side come off, but one is still pumping.

7:25 am: north off and out.

7:27 am: four more in.

7:30 am: the last one on the south side finally comes off and they all head out.

Just like their personalities are different, so is their milking lifespan, Groves said, which varies from cow to cow.

“We start them at two years of age,” he says, and laughing adds, “And I’ll keep them as long as they pay for themselves. We’ve got some who are 10-12 years old.”

7:31 am: south side in.

7:34 am: north side out.

‘always something to do’

Right now, Groves said the price of milk is good but the feed prices are really high. And the cattle use a lot of it – 1,100 pounds of feed a day.

“And that’s just in the barn,” he said. They also feed on hay, silage and wet cake out in the field.

7:36 am: north in.

7:41 am: south out.

7:42 am: Groves slips out of the barn, looking to see if there are more to come in.

A black, tan and white calico kitty lurks nearby, darting in and out of the cows while they feed. He sneaks over to a bucket of fresh milk on the barn floor, just milked separately from the rest of the cows, and laps a little before scurrying off again.

7:44 am: north out and last four in.

7:47 am: he hooks up one final Jersey on the south side.

7:54 am: north off and out.

7:59 am: the last one on the south side comes off and goes out into the field. And with that, the morning milking is complete.

But this is the just the start of the day for Groves. After the milking is over, there is plenty still to do.

“There’s always something to do on a farm,” he said.

Bottle feed the calves, or “kids” as he calls them, clean the milkers, wash the floors and clean out the barn. Then field work, planting crops, cutting hay and general farming chores.

And around 4:30 pm, a second daily milking occurs.

“It’s a hard life,” he says, “but it’s a good life.”


Flying high: Maryville resident receives Congressional Gold Medal on behalf of her late mother

I’ve always thought flying was a sort of miraculous happening ~ Mittie Parsley Schirmer

 

They were a spunky, inspiring group of women. Jet setters. Role models. The original Fly Girls. Some 1,100 women who took to the air during World War II.

They were known as WASPS — Women Airforce Service Pilots — who served their country when the US was facing a severe shortage of pilots.

In 1942, the US Army Air Forces initiated an experimental program of training women, all civilian volunteers, to fly nearly every type of aircraft, including B-17, B-26 and B-29 bombers.

The WASP program lasted just two years, but during that time, the women flew 60 million miles of noncombat military missions, allowing their male counterparts to fight overseas. Their job included ferrying planes and carrying supplies and personnel from base to base.

 

While I was growing up I believed flying for me was just an unattainable dream, so I didn’t do anything about it.

 

Born October 24, 1921, in Stanley, KS, Mittie Parsley grew up with that belief. But it didn’t take long for her to make learning to fly a reality.

When her future husband, Dan Schirmer, was serving in the Pacific theatre, Mittie decided to join the Civil Air Patrol.

She began taking flying lessons at the Municipal Airport in Kansas City, where she learned about the WASP program and immediately applied for the training program.

 

Most of my friends thought I was a complete airhead for even contemplating leaving a relatively secure job for the ‘Wild Blue Yonder,’ but my mother encouraged me to join if I had the chance.

 

And she did have the chance. Of the 25,000 who applied, only 1,100 were accepted and eventually graduated.

In May of 1944, at the age of 20, Mittie began her six-month training at Avenger Field in Sweetwater, TX. Her class was the last before the program was cut. During the graduation ceremony, Henry “Hap” Arnold, commanding general, said he wasn’t sure “whether a slip of a girl could fight the controls of a B-17 in heavy weather” when the program started. “Now in 1944, it is on the record that women can fly as well as men,” he said.

 

As I look back on those months of training it seemed I was living in a never-never land. It was a segment of my life that was completely different and a wonderfully fulfilling experience.

 

A month after the WASPs were deactivated, Mittie, who also went by Betty in later years, married Dan Schirmer, and they soon began raising a family with son, Mark, and daughter, Ann. They moved around some when the children were young before settling in St. Joseph.

Then when Ann was in eighth grade and Mark was in high school, the family moved to Maryville. They lived a few blocks from the Northwest Missouri State campus, and when Mark started college there, Mittie decided to go, too. A couple of years later, Ann joined them.

After Mittie had completed her degree in art, she and her husband moved back to St. Joseph, where she taught school for several years. Around that same time, in the 1970s, the WASPs were finally granted military status when President Jimmy Carter signed a law establishing those women as veterans.

And now, after nearly 70 years since the WASP program began, they’re beginning to get more recognition. Last July, President Barack Obama signed a bill awarding each WASP the Congressional Gold Medal, the highest and most distinguished honor Congress can bestow to a civilian.

Sadly, the recognition came a year and a half after Mittie died. However, her daughter, Maryville resident Ann Pfeifer, was able to accept the medal on her behalf in March at a ceremony in Washington, DC.

“Each WASP received a Congressional Medal,” Ann said. “It really is an honor.”

Also making the trip was her husband, Dan, their daughters, Angela Stanley and Mindy Gray, their grandson, Jake Stanley, her brother, Mark Schirmer and his wife, Wendy, and their son, Derek.

“We’re just really proud of her and wish she would’ve been able to be there,” Pfeifer said. “She would’ve gotten a kick out of it.

“She was proud to be a WASP and to serve her country.”

 

The application, the acceptance, the training, the graduation, the wings and especially the flying were all great, but, perhaps the proudest moment was when this former WASP stood up by her husband, when the pastor of our church asked the veterans to stand to be honored by the people of the church ~ Mittie Parsley Schirmer

 

***Mittie’s words were taken from the entry she wrote in “44-W-10 The Lost Last Class of Avenger Field,” 1996.


Are we there yet?

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

Summer is fast approaching, and you know what that means, right? Family vacation.

You know, the week you spend somewhere nice, running around with your head cut off fitting in as much as possible so that by the time you get home you’re ready for a realvacation.

Yeah, that vacation.

Growing up, my parents tried to make a vacation out our yearly trip to the Weese Family Reunion. And since Larry and I have been together, we’ve followed suit.

This year, we’re headed back to New Mexico, so for the last several months we’ve been planning our road trip.

With all of the preparations, I’ve been thinking back on many of my favorites.

The reunion is my mom’s side of the family. My great-great-grandfather, Alexander C. Weese, had 20 children altogether (my grandma, Jo Ann, has a LOT of cousins), so all of us Weese offspring get together at a different location each year.

We’ve hosted it here in Missouri, and in addition to New Mexico, we’ve also traveled to Colorado, Wyoming, Texas, Oklahoma, Kansas and California.

The year it was held in California, 2005, my dad decided he wanted to make it a mega-trip. Months were spent in planning where we would go, what routes we would take, places to stay and activities we would enjoy. We’d hit as many National Parks as we could, not only for beauty but also for education. My dad even picked up a second job to pay for it.

In the end, he and my mom had mapped out a three-week trek that took us down to Arizona, the Painted Desert and Grand Canyon, southern California, Hollywood, Disneyland, the reunion in northern California, Sequoia, Yosemite, the Redwoods, up the Oregon and Washington coast, on to Montana and Wyoming to Glacier and Yellowstone, then to South Dakota, Mount Rushmore and the Badlands. There were lots of other little stops along the way as well.

It was, in the end, the summer vacations of all summer vacations.

With all of their extensive planning, however, there were, naturally, a few hiccups. Fighting amongst siblings, car troubles, a couple of less than what we thought we were getting hotel rooms.

Somewhere after the two-week mark of the journey, and after we’d left Yellowstone, we were traveling in northern Wyoming.

Let me just reiterate that my parents had meticulously planned which highways we would take along each section of the trip and how long it would take us to get from one point to the next. And this portion of the trip was no different.

At Manderson, WY, we pulled onto Highway 31. We were, it felt like, in the middle of nowhere.

I will now defer to my parents’ journal entries to tell you, as Paul Harvey would say, the rest of the story:

Dad’s journal, July 4, 2005 – “We had planned on taking this road (Highway 31) on our FACT Club trip, but had missed the turn (then) and just about missed it again – and shouldhave…”

This was a sign of what was to come. But in the meantime, everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves.

Mom’s trip journal, July 4, 2005 – “Saw an antelope and baby. Saw two long-legged, long-beaked birds, looked like a stork, brown in color. Hannah is watching a Care Bears movie and singing out loud with it.”

Dad’s – “We’re seeing more oil wells, antelope and wildlife, and lots more irrigation for crops and hayfields. We saw a large herd of sheep. Then had to stop. Some ranchers were moving cattle across the road.”

And then the real fun began.

Mom – “Hyattsville, WY – population 100; 4,457 elevation…”

Dad – “At Hyattsville, the road changed to gravel…”

Gravel?! This is a Wyoming state highway. Yes, we’re in the middle of nowhere, but this is a state highway.

As soon as we hit the gravel, I grabbed the atlas. A closer look revealed that, indeed, the map indicated that portions of this highway were an “unimproved road.”

Mom – “…road changed to gravel. But we are up for the adventure.”

Had we taken a closer look before our journey, we probably would have chosen a different route.

There were a few grumblings, especially from my brother who was following behind us and all of our dust in his car. But the gravel only lasted about 20 minutes and we continued on our way to Devil’s Tower.

I have reflected a lot on this experience in the years since, both because we enjoy laughing about it and also because of what it teaches.

One of the things I gained from it is that we must have a plan for our lives, so that we know where we are going and how we are going to get there.

We need to really study it out and seek which paths will help us arrive at our eventual destination. If I want to become a great chef, it’s probably not a good idea to go to a school that doesn’t have a culinary arts program.

And then, even after we’ve set our course and are closely following our plan, there will be unexpected detours or road blocks along our way. We run out of money to pay for our schooling or we get sick and cannot attend. Sometimes these things are out of our control, sometimes they are because of choices we make.

But once we find ourselves in those situations we didn’t plan on, make the best of it. Don’t get discouraged. Right your course and continue on.

I am reminded of a quote by Voltaire: “Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.”

And like my mom wrote, be “up for the adventure.”


‘Without music, life would be a mistake’

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

As I was driving down the road a couple of weeks ago, I saw several buses full of high school band and choir students, heading to Northwest for the annual district music contest.

As if right on cue, tears started streaming down my cheeks right there in my car.

Crying? Seriously?

That’s what is has come to these days.

This odd phenomenon has been happening a lot to me in recent years. Getting emotional every time I see a marching band or a busload of students heading off to some competition or when I hear the “Hallelujah Chorus” or someone singing “The Star-Spangled Banner.”

I know I’m not alone in this, however, as I’ve had friends share similar experiences.

Still, it’s somewhat inexplicable to me. But I guess maybe what it’s really about is four fantastic years at Maryville High School, chock-full of musical memories.

Most people know about my passion for athletics in high school, but I was also very involved in both band and choir.

As students, we were surrounded by greatness, teaching, leading and inspiring us. Lee and Nina Schneider. Dennis Dau. Marilyn Rhea.

Memories of these teachers spark such great fondness within me.

Performing at home football games and at Christmas and Spring concerts, marching in parades and field competitions, participating at District and State Music Contest, playing at events with the Jazz and Dixieland bands.

And then there were the invitations to perform at the “big ticket” affairs…

Concert choir at the music educators’ conference in Tan-Tar-A during my sophomore year. I still get chills when I recall our performance of “The Bells.” I lost my starting position on the basketball team to go on that trip because I missed a practice before a game. But I’ve never felt that was a bad thing because it was such a great experience.

Traveling to El Paso, TX, for the Sun Bowl Parade with the marching band my freshman year. That was definitely a long bus ride. It was also my first time traveling across the border into Mexico. It was so hot down there at Thanksgiving, and we were dressed in those dark green wool uniforms, that several band members got sick while high stepping to “Hi Neighbor” down the road.

And then the biggest one of all, the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. It was a tradition that we only go on one big trip every four years, and even though we had just gone to El Paso the year before, it was just too big to pass up. What memories. We also stopped in Chicago on our way back home for the Ronald McDonald Christmas Parade.

Music has not only provided me with so many great memories, but an abundance of opportunities to learn and grow over the years.

It is a way for us to understand and be understood.

Victor Hugo said, “Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent.”

I believe it’s also unique in that it can be both powerful and peaceful. I once read that music can “lull a baby to sleep or bring a crowd to its feet.”

It can connect people and cultures all over the world or just down the street.

Music also helps us to feel. That we’re not alone in the world. That other people have felt the same things we have felt. That we can endure.

And it also has the ability to bring about change.

William Congreve said, “Music hath charms to soothe the savage breast, To soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak.”

So the next time you see me standing on the street corner of a parade or in the audience of a concert — and I’m crying like a baby — realize it’s more than just memories of what I have experienced. It’s joy and excitement for the current generation of students who are getting their chance of experiencing that same gift of music, too.

Because, as Nietzsche said, “Without music, life would be a mistake.”


Great works inspire greatness

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

I just finished reading “Uncle Tom’s Cabin” by Harriet Beecher Stowe, a book that’s been on my list of “classics” to read for several years.

It left me quite conflicted and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I’ve been reading what others have said and even discussed it with my husband.

Stowe’s book is about a hard-working and deeply religious slave, Uncle Tom. I greatly admire his faith, compassion, ability to forgive and the strength he had to endure an unimaginable hell.

But there’s also the side to Tom that has been criticized since publication, that he was weak, too tolerant, a traitor to his race, which has led to his name becoming a racial slur.

At times, I wanted him to stand up and fight back, to stir up a revolt, or at least try to.

But then I think, maybe he was fighting back in his own way. I could go on, but I’ll save that for another forum.

So I’m still up in the air about Tom, but I plan on revisiting it again soon. And I guess that’s why it’s been on my list of “classics.” It’s kept me going back to it. Thinking critically, sharing my thoughts and learning from others. And possibly changing how I feel. Or maybe not.

A classic work, as defined by Oliver DeMille in “A Thomas Jefferson Education,” is one that is worth returning to over and over because you get more from it each time.

It also, for me, does not necessarily mean that it’s old. There are plenty of books written in recent years that are really great reads. And some of the books classified as classics are not classics to me, although they might be to you. I barely finished “The Scarlet Letter” and “The Lightning Thief” left me wanting more.

DeMille said, “Great works inspire greatness.”

The more classics I study, the more I find myself being inspired and asking myself questions. How would I react in a certain situation? How can I be a better wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, community member? How can I use this knowledge to affect change?

Classics give us crucial questions but not all the answers. They make us seek and struggle, discover and decide, and sometimes even reconsider.

Many times they present an old question and we can answer it in a new and current way.

Does slavery exist today? Yes. Maybe not exactly as shown by Stowe, but it’s still very much a problem today, both literally and figuratively. So what am I going to do about it? The answer may be nothing. Or it may be something great.

Many of them also happen to be some of the most controversial, I believe, because they make us think about real issues. “To Kill A Mockingbird,” “Of Mice and Men,” “Bridge to Terabithia” and “Harry Potter.”

And some of the most meaningful books I’ve read recently were both intriguing and thought-provoking, and yet, horrific and disturbing like “The Giver” or “The Kite Runner.”

Then there’s one of my all-time favorite classics, “The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn” by Mark Twain.

I was recently shocked to learn that a publisher is going to print a new version of the book, replacing the word “nigger” (all 219 times) with “slave” and “Indian” for “injun.” The change came after an English professor approached the publisher to create a version for “younger people and general readers.”

My husband and I discussed this at length, he being a teacher said he could understand the difficulty in teaching it. He often reads books out loud in class and said he would struggle with saying it.

I don’t believe we can rewrite our nation’s history to make it all politically correct. I’m shocked every time I read it and every time I hear it. It makes me think and remember. We need to teach our children about those social attitudes and how wrong they were, but we can’t do that if it’s not included in the book.

And so we agreed to disagree.

Clifton Fadiman said, “When you reread a classic, you do not see more in the book than you did before; you see more in you than was there before.”

So grab a classic. I guarantee you will see more inside of you, just as I am learning to do.


Finding joy in the journey

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

This time of year is one of reflection for me. Reviewing goals from the last year and setting some for the new year.

In looking back on the past year, I realized I haven’t written a column since August.

I was a little surprised I’d been neglecting it quite so much, but in my review, I realized why… the communication (media) law class I took this past semester. Man, that took a lot my mental energy. So much so that I guess I couldn’t think of anything meaningful to share here.

So I thought I would do a quick recap of a few things I realized or thought were noteworthy over the past few months since this column has seen some ink on the pages.

“the class”

The comm law class was really quite challenging. And I actually really appreciated that about it.

I realized I need that in my life. I mean, sometimes it’s nice to have it easy, to just sit back and relax and let life float by. I’m not sure I remember what that’s like, but I’m sure it’s nice.

But it’s also nice to work hard at something, really stretch yourself and feel the sweetness of success.

“family first”

I had the rare opportunity of attending a BYU basketball game recently. My Cougars were playing up in Omaha against Creighton, so my sister, Amy, (who also attended BYU) convinced our other sister and brother, Christy and Ryan (who both live in Omaha), to go to the game with us, along with Amy’s husband, Will.

They won, I nearly lost my voice cheering them on and it was great fun. But what I realized, more than how much I love it when BYU wins, is how important it is to spend time with family. We all live relatively close, but it’s still a rare treat when we can all get together.

I also realized this with the recent death of a cousin, who lost his battle with cancer a few weeks ago. It was amazing to see the support of other family members and everyone remembering what an amazing man he was and how he’ll be missed.

One of the greatest blessings I have in my life is my belief that families can be together forever. Although we are all grieving, I’m sure there was great rejoicing as he was reunited with other lost loved ones.

“real fans”

I attended a junior high basketball game this fall and was disgusted at the so-called fans at the game, especially their booing.

Who boos? And why do they boo? I can’t stand it. To me, hearing someone boo at a game is worse than walking away with a loss.

I once read some sports psychologist say that fans boo because they want to be a part of the game, believing they have some sort of impact on its outcome.

It reminded me of watching other games, from pee wee to high school, where you sometimes (translation = a LOT of the time) see a parent coaching from the stands, booing at the refs, yelling at their kid…perhaps all in an attempt to relive their glory days – or would-be glory days – of their youth.

This drives me absolutely insane. The less-civilized person in me wants to stand up and tell them to shut up or go home. I’m trying to enjoy a game. Plus, kids need our encouragement. They need us to practice good sportsmanship. And, they need us to be good examples.

I realized it’s the same outside of sports. Who likes to be around negative people, always “booing” about this or that? I prefer being surrounded by people who have good attitudes, no matter what life is throwing at them. We also need more real fans in our lives, who support and cheer us on, regarles of the circumstances.

“enjoy it”

I had the opportunity to talk to some local high school students recently for Issues and Answers and I asked them about their goals for 2011. Their answers included stuff like doing well in sports and getting their driver’s licenses. Pretty typical teenage goals.

One girl, however, looked at me, smiled casually and said, “Enjoy it.”

I loved it.

I was really impressed by not only the simpleness of her statement but also the wisdom in it.

My life (and probably yours, too) is busy. Crazy, even. I feel like I’m always running from one thing to the next, trying to fit in 25 hours in a day, not stopping to rest or breathe or … enjoy much of anything.

She reminded of something I heard a couple of years ago from Thomas S. Monson about finding joy in the journey, which I guess is the real topic of this abridged column.

He said: “This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone.

“I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by….Instead, find joy in the journey—now.”


Please don’t call PETA on me

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

I killed our cat.

It was an accident. I promise.

It’s true that in the past I have hated cats, and I suppose I still do, to some extent. And it’s not just cats. I have always had a general dislike for most animals.

But killing Cucha wasn’t on purpose. Honest. And in the last two years since that horrific incident, my feelings have changed. Drastically.

Case in point: as I was driving home last week, I popped up over a hill and came upon a mama rabbit and her baby bunny right in the middle of my lane. I braked, but it was too late. I hit the mother. And a moment later I had tears rushing down my cheeks, wondering what that tiny baby bunny was going to do now, thinking about poor Bambi and that voice saying “Your mother can’t be with you any more.”

A few years ago, it wouldn’t have phased me in the least. I would’ve thought, Circle of Life, and gone about my way.

But not now. The real beginning of this story, however, actually began during my childhood, when my mom wouldn’t let us have any pets. Not even a goldfish.

She grew up on a farm, surrounded by animals, so I didn’t understand. But I guess I really didn’t care, either, because at a very young age I was terrified of them, especially dogs. I have a vague memory of an incident where one jumped up on me, knocked me over and licked my face.

As for cats, my intense dislike for them has always been because of two reasons. The smell. And the hair. It’s that OCD part of me.

So when the Wood family moved out into the country in 2007 and discussion about pets was held among its members, I began to get a real uneasy feeling growing deep inside me.

The clan had valid reasons. A cat could take care of the mice (which I hate even more than cats but not quite as much as opossums — but that’s a whole other story) and a dog would help protect the home. Still, I wasn’t ready to jump on their bandwagon.

But, one day, unbeknownst to me, they brought home a dog, one that some friends had given to them for free.

And so we welcomed Nishnabotna (Nishna for short, named after the river because I like how it sounds) into our family. And I became a pet owner. An outdoor pet owner.

Nishna started making his personality known right away. Tearing up this and chewing on that. He did it all so playfully, though, and his big dark eyes always got the better of me.

He destroyed the screen on our back porch, ripping it to shreds. He also demolished numerous shoes, one of Hunter’s jackets, a baseball glove, a couple of packages left by the UPS guy, his water and food bowls and a CD case and the CDs inside. He’s gnawed on our backyard swing, the boards on the porch and door, scattered trash mistakenly left out and dug up numerous holes in our yard trying to get at various critters… Just being a typical playful little puppy.

Through it all, though, I found myself still loving him more than I ever thought I would or could. And he and I have a unique relationship. I generally don’t touch him or pet him, although I can’t say that I haven’t ever. I know, that sounds really weird, but remember, OCD. I love to play fetch with him, with frisbees and tennis balls. And I also love to crouch down at our patio door, look through the glass at him and talk to him. He sometimes licks the window, which I believe is his way of showing me he understands how much I care about him.

And then there’s Cucha, the cat I killed.

About a month after Larry and the kids brought Nishna home, they surprised me with another pet.

I wasn’t nearly as happy with this pet. After all, it was a cat and I hate cats. They stink, they shed hair, they hiss, they scratch, they get under your feet, and they are, well, catty. Like girls in junior high. Ugh!

Now I’ll admit that Cucha (which is Chilean slang for cat) was tiny and cute, with her black coat and white paws. She and Nishna, who was a still a puppy back then, were playful together, although sometimes I felt he was too rough with her and I was afraid he might get a little too excited and accidentally kill her.

But in the end, I did that.

It had been just a couple of months since she had joined our family. I was outside, getting something out of the car, and Nishna started jumping inside. So while I was trying to get him down with my left hand, I slammed the door shut with my right. And as soon as I let go of the door, I saw a black and white streak out of the corner of my eye heading into the car.

I tried to catch the door. But it was too late.

Curiosity — with a little help from me — killed our cat.

We eventually got another kitten from the same mother, but I mourned her for a long time.

It’s a little difficult for me to admit that our pets have changed me, but they have. I find myself always looking carefully before slamming car doors shut and I’m trying to slow down when I pop up over hills on country roads.

But it’s even more than that.

Anatole France once said, “Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.”

I feel like I’ve finally started to awaken.


Albert T. Ellis: enterprising spirit of the West

— Glass panels from historic Ellis house find new home at museum —

Once part of a “landmark” in the heart of Maryville, a couple of ruby glass panels have recently returned home.

The Bohemian glass panels from the front doors of the Forsyth Place, the historical home featured on one of the downtown Maryville murals, were donated to the Nodaway County Historical Society Museum by the Condon family.

While the house was well known because of the Forsyth and Condon families for over 80 years, it was first home to another distinguished name in Maryville history, Albert T. Ellis I, who constructed the house in 1883.

early years prepare Ellis

Ellis was born on August 21, 1843, in Kentucky, the eleventh child of Leander T. Ellis. That fall, he and his family moved to the Platte Purchase and lived in Buchanan County for several years before moving to Nodaway County in 1848.

According to “A Biographical History of Nodaway and Atchison Counties Missouri,” Ellis was not afforded a formal education, however, his interests in learning and reading, along with his “observation, a retentive mind and active connection with the practical affairs of life…brought to him considerable knowledge and he became a well informed man, thoroughly conversant with the leading questions of the day.”

He worked as a farm hand for 10 years, starting at the age of nine, which helped prepare him for the “arduous duties of business life in later years.”

Ellis was “tall in stature and when in health weighed about one hundred and fifty pounds. He possessed unfailing good nature and a very genial manner and was fond of a practical joke.”

In 1865, he married Amanda Allen from Bloomfield, IA, and she became mother to three children, Mary (Mamie), Cora and Albert T. Ellis II.

the aspiring businessman

At the age of 19, Ellis began his “mercantile interests” in Maryville, being first employed by Adam Terhune and then by Beal and Robinson, who were dry goods merchants, where he stayed for three years.

“But he was ambitious and wished to engage in business for himself. He had little in the way of capital save experience, but he had established public confidence, was energetic and determined and, relying upon these qualities…he resolved to start upon an independent business career.”

Investing a few hundred dollars in a stock of drugs, he opened a drug store on the west side of the square in downtown Maryville.

Ellis was described as “possessing the enterprising spirit of the West, which has been the dominant factor in producing the wonderful development of this section of the country” and as a man of “keen discrimination and sound judgment who used executive ability and excellent management in attaining success.”

a remarkable partnership

In 1866, Ellis became partners with James B. Prather, who helped organize Nodaway Valley Bank and served as its presidents for many years. The two started a drug store together, Ellis & Prather, and developed a business relationship that lasted for 25 years.

“The partnership was remarkable for its length of duration, its perfect harmony and the continuous and gratifying success which attended their efforts. Both partners were men of well known reliability and possessed the unqualified confidence of the residents of Maryville and vicinity.”

They constructed a building just north of Nodaway Valley Bank and “instituted a jobbing business, at the same time conducting the leading retail drug house in Maryville.”

As their business prospered, Ellis began investing heavily in real estate, both land and buildings in the country and within the city limits, one of which was a certain plot on Main Street, where “he erected one of the first brick residences of the city, making it his place of abode.”

the French colonial home

With the help of architect JM Gile, who also designed the Nodaway County Courthouse, Ellis built a beautiful French colonial home on the northeast corner of First and Main in Maryville.

The two-story brick house with sandstone trimming stood a grand 58 by 42 feet. The April 5, 1883, edition of the Nodaway Democrat described it as having a “Mansard roof covered with slate and crest railing around on top” with a kitchen, dining room, parlor, sitting room, one bedroom and one bathroom on the first floor with five bedrooms and a bathroom on the second floor.

The paper called it “one of the most elegant residences in the city.”

Among the notable features incorporated into the home, as portrayed by Edwyna Forsyth Condon who wrote a brief history of the place which housed her family for four generations, were “four beautiful fireplaces, one with a lovely beveled glass mirror over it, the woodwork, the stained glass window, the walnut spiral stairway and the Bohemian glass in the front doors.”

honorable community member

Ellis was also very popular as a citizen in the community. In his early years, he joined the Masonic fraternity and became a Knight Templar.

“He identified himself with no questionable and unworthy enterprises or movements, and his patriotic interest in the town and county was sincere and permanent.

“He gave to every interest calculated to prove of public benefit his earnest support and cooperation. He was reared in the faith of the Democracy and of that party was an earnest supporter, but never was an aspirant for public office.

“With him friendship was inviolable, and his greatest happiness was found in the midst of his family at his own fireside.

“He was indeed a valued citizen in the community.”

after his death

When Ellis died in 1891, the home was left to his daughter, Mamie, and her husband, J. Woodson Smith.

In 1902, she sold the house to Edmond Forsyth and the home became a part of the Forsyth family for four generations, including his son Luther and wife Besse Michau, then their daughter, Edwyna, and her husband Edward Condon and their children.

Following Besse’s death in 1962, the Forsyth home was closed and remained vacant until 1969 when a new business opened there called The Landmark.

In 1977, the structure was torn down, and today, Citizens Bank and Trust sits in that same location.

the Bohemian glass panels

Those interested in viewing the ruby glass panels from the Ellis house can do so by visiting the Nodaway County Historical Society Museum.

It is open from 1 to 4 pm, Tuesday through Friday, or by appointment, and is located at 110 North Walnut, Maryville.

For more information, call 660.582.8176

“A Biographical History of Nodaway and Atchison Counties Missouri,” “Encyclopedia of the History of Missouri” edited by Howard Louis Conard, and “Forsyth Place, 1883-1969 — Four generations at First and Main” (Nodaway News Leader, December 2009) were used for this article. Also, special thanks to Linda Ellis Benedetti.

 

What do you mean you don’t talk Mexican?

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

My husband was standing in the checkout line this past weekend when he struck up a conversation with the man in front of him.

He quickly learned this guy was from El Salvador and proceeded to speak with him in Spanish.

This caught the attention of a couple standing in the line over, who gave them the look.

You know the one — the if-you’re-going-to-be-living-here-you’d-better-be-speaking-English look.

My husband’s been given that look on more than a few occasions. And I just don’t get it.

First off, though, let me say that I wholeheartedly believe if you’re going to live in this country, you should learn English. We recently met someone who’d lived here for nearly 30 words and still hadn’t learned it. That’s ridiculous.

But I certainly don’t have a problem with people speaking Spanish or any other language to one another. In my husband’s case, he’s a Spanish teacher and likes to practice with native speakers whenever and wherever he can.

“No culture can live, if it attempts to be exclusive,” Mohandas K. Gandhi, Indian nationalist and spiritual leader

What I don’t get when people act this way is that all of our ancestors (with the exception of the Native Americans) came to this country from other lands. And many of those couldn’t speak English when they first landed on Ellis Island.

They came speaking German, Italian, French, Swedish, Polish, Russian and Greek. And they came for freedom, some of them specifically for freedom of speech.

In “The Truth about Immigrants,” Brian Frazelle, Houston Catholic Worker, wrote:

“There is always a touch of irony when a citizen of the US complains about immigration. Except for those of pure Native American origin, every one of us is of immigrant descent.

“The US gained its territory largely through the dishonest and violent removal of the indigenous population. Yet somehow we maintain the idea that this land is ours alone and that it is not only harmful but immoral for other people to enter it.”

I don’t want this to turn into a discussion on immigration – illegal or otherwise – but I do want to give a little history…

From its earliest beginnings, and even before, the United States has been a multi-lingual nation. In the early 1500s and through the late 20th century, the Spanish language was spoken in the majority of the country, primarily through the efforts of Hispanic explorers. Prior to the American Revolution, Spanish was even spoken right here in Missouri. Spanish-speaking militias were called to St. Louis in 1780 to help defend the town from British forces.

When the US was founded in the late 1700s, it was normal to hear as many as 20 languages spoken in daily life, such as Dutch, French, German and numerous Native American ones.

There are 322 languages spoken in the US today, according to the 2000 Census.

“A different language is a different vision of life,” Federico Fellini, Italian film director

What I really find really humorous about people complaining about other languages is that our English language has absorbed so many words from others. Spanish alone has influenced it greatly with words like canyon, ranch, rodeo, mustang, coyote, stampede, vigilante, and even places like Colorado which means colorful and Los Angeles which means the angels.

From French, there’s mayonnaise, soufflé, theatre, naïve, déjà vu, lingerie, cliché, encore, petite and souvenir. And from German: aspirin, diesel, hamburger, nickel, quartz, zinc, waltz — and of course, bratwurst, sauerkraut and strudel.

And while I’m on this cultural soapbox, there’s something else that really gets me going.

All people who speak Spanish are NOT Mexicans and they don’t “talk Mexican.” If you don’t know exactly where they came from, it’s best to say they are Hispanic and they “speak Spanish.” Because they come to the US from a myriad of countries, including Spain, Guatemala, El Salvador, Venezuela, Chile, Honduras, Peru and the Dominican Republic, just to name a few.

And some are actually Americans because they were born here. Crazy, I know, but true.

So the next time you’re standing in line at the store and overhear someone speaking Spanish or French or German – or whatever other foreign language – keep in mind our nation’s history and the history of our own English language.

German writer and philosopher Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said: “Those who know nothing of foreign languages know nothing of their own.”