It’s time to do our part

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

One in four…

It’s a staggering statistic.

One in four of us is affected by mental illness.

That’s 60 million Americans.

That’s someone we all know.

And that’s probably someone who hasn’t let us know they need help.

I was watching CBS News last week about the growing number of deaths by suicide. A new CDC report said suicide rates have increased sharply among middle-aged adults.

Suicide rates among adults between 35 and 64 was 13.7 deaths per 100,000 Americans in 1999. By 2010, it had climbed to 17.6 deaths per 100,000 people.

That’s me, my friends, my family members.

And it’s you, your friends and your family members.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness defines a mental illness as a medical condition that disrupts a person’s thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. It can affect persons of any age, race, religion or income and are not the result of personal weakness, lack of character or poor upbringing.

I frequently hear people ask “why” after hearing about a death by suicide. Why? Because they were struggling, feeling alone, beyond hopeless. Probably more hopeless and alone than most of us experience on our darkest of days.

They are dealing with an illness that causes their minds to not function properly like the pancreas doesn’t function properly with diabetes.

And just like diabetes, it is treatable.

But we have to seek help. And we also have to recognize when our friends and family members need help. It’s a burden no one should bear alone. Try and imagine what it would be like to live without help while suffering from an illness like diabetes.

It’s very personal to me. And it should be personal to you, too.

May is National Mental Health Awareness Month, a good reminder that it’s time…

It’s time to provide support. It’s time to become educated. It’s time to play our part.

We are one of 60 million Americans. And we should not be alone in this fight.

If you need help, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1.800.273.8255. For more information, visit nami.org.


The gift of autism: Fox family helps spread autism awareness

Creed Fox knows all about tornadoes. He knows the wind speeds of an F-5 tornado and what kinds of clouds are in the sky.

The almost 10-year-old also knows about airplanes. He knows their military branch, their engine types and who makes them.

But the little boy who loves tornados and airplanes would not ride in an elevator. He also doesn’t play with neighborhood children, struggles with eye contact, has trouble with table manners and refuses to leave the house after he comes home from school.

Creed is one of the 54.

One in 54 boys who are affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder.

The Centers for Disease Control estimates that one in 88 children will be affected by an Autism Spectrum Disorder, and of those 88, one in 54 will be a boy. Creed was diagnosed in January 2011 at the age of 7 1/2.

Magical moments

While things may be more difficult at times for his family because of autism, it has also opened their eyes to what his mom calls “magical moments.”

“I find pleasure in watching him do things that excite him,” Maryville resident Penni Fox said. “As we were leaving school yesterday, our normal routine is to go to the post office. Well, I went a different way, which is not allowed, and we found two cement mixers pouring concrete into a newly dug basement hole.

“He was mesmerized as we talked about rebar and concrete and the workers doing the job.

“At a time before autism, I would have barely noticed the work taking place.”

Magical moments.

“Seeing things that are so unimportant to most people become magical moments to my son with autism,” Penni said. “That is the gift of autism.”

Elevators

Some people don’t see it that way, as a gift. But that’s what Penni and her husband, Chuck, are trying to do. Share their story and share their gift.

That little boy who can tell you everything about tornadoes and airplanes goes into an absolute panic when he nears an elevator.

It’s his latest autism hangup, Penni said, but he’s working on it with a specialist.

“He will now step inside it as long as someone holds the ‘door open’ button,” Penni said. “Then he examines the inside for the manufacturer and the capacity, whether it says number of people or a total weight limit, and he can remember who makes many of the elevators.”

The Foxes

Chuck and Penni Fox are natives of Northwest Missouri. In addition to Creed, they have an older son, Drake.

As a toddler, Penni said Creed was reaching his developmental milestones, although at the end of the window or even months later, but he was doing some amazing and bizarre things, too.

“I knew he was struggling but nothing was obvious enough to warrant testing for autism or anything else,” she said. “He was just a little quirky.”

They moved to Maryville in 2008 when Chuck retired from the Air Force. He worked as an assistant coach for the Northwest Missouri State women’s basketball team with former coach, Gene Steinmeyer. (See story on Creed and the team on page A1)

“Creed started kindergarten at Eugene Field that year, but he struggled,” Penni said.

Diagnoses

Soon, Creed received a diagnosis of dyslexia along with ADHD. He repeated kindergarten and Penni thought he was doing better, although he was still behind academically.

During the next year, however, Penni said she realized something was really wrong.

While discussing his academic performance with his teacher, Penni said she blurted out, “Do you think he has autism?”

The school district worked very hard to get a plan in place, she said, while they waited nearly four months for testing at Children’s Mercy in Kansas City and at the University of Kansas. He was diagnosed with high functioning autism.

“High functioning is the blessing in the autism diagnosis,” she said. “It means he is highly verbal, does most self care and has these out of the world understandings of the strangest things for a seven-year-old kid.”

During the early stages of his diagnosis, Penni said she kept reading about the “gift of autism.”

“At that point, I wasn’t sure it was a gift,” she said. “But it was a relief to know what was wrong with Creed.”

Toothpicks & drinking straws

Penni has chosen to work from home part-time so she can be available full-time for Creed. It means very little time away from him because he can’t be left with just anyone.

“Paying a teenager to watch TV while he plays is not a reality,” she said. “He may decide to build a recycling landfill by opening full garbage bags and burying them in the back yard.

“He might fill the bathtub with 25 plastic shopping bags to see if they float.

“He might make toilet paper sculptures in the bathroom sink then place them in areas his brother stores his possessions to dry.”

All true stories.

On the plus side, she said he loves art and anything that can become a sculpture, like that toilet paper, or even toothpicks and drinking straws.

Routine

Creed craves routine.

“He likes to drive the same route to our destination, tells me when I should get over, asks if I am watching for the exit and how fast am I going,” Penni said.

He also wants everyone else to follow rules, she said.

“It drives him crazy if Mr. Dumke keeps them just an extra minute or two past his scheduled departure time,” she said.

Creed is currently in Howard Dumke’s third grade class at Eugene Field. He is mainstreamed for special classes like PE, music and art and also has some regular classroom time. He receives speech, occupational therapy and social skills intervention.

“We are incredibly lucky to have the support we do from Eugene Field Elementary School,” Penni said.

In the early stages of this autism, he would become frustrated or agitated and have episodes of Echolalia, which is repeating random things he had heard, she said.

Now he’s focused on a six-rotation medley. He randomly shouts out digital clock times, like 5:09, and then backward, 9:05, for six rotations.

Gift of autism

Penni advocates for more support for mental and behavioral health in Maryville to help Creed and the other one in 54 like him.

“Being in this largely rural area, access to services for autism are nearly nonexistent,” she said.

She also hopes her efforts with awareness will help people understand and embrace autism.

“Our country has to understand and embrace the gift of autism and create and find suitable opportunities for these individuals,” she said. “In the right places, with the right training and support, individuals on the spectrum can be productive citizens.”

When people realize that potential, their eyes can open to see those magical moments that Penni sees with Creed.

It is the gift that is called autism.


Building mutual respect by studying others’ beliefs

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

When I was a senior in high school, the youth group at the First Baptist Church in Maryville took several weeks studying the other religions in the community. They visited each church where the youth in those churches presented information about their beliefs.

It impressed me that young kids (and their leaders) were interested in knowing what others believed.

It was also exciting to share what I believed with kids in my high school, so they could hear it from us and ask questions about what they had “heard” we believed or thought they knew about us.

That experience struck me in a way I have never forgotten. It has also helped me to value a good source of knowledge and truth as a journalist. And more importantly, it instilled deeply in me a love and respect of all people and their beliefs.

Mahatma Gandhi said, “It is the duty of every cultured man or woman to read sympathetically the scriptures of the world. If we are to respect others’ religions as we would have them respect our own, a friendly study of the world’s religions is a sacred duty.”

I love this. Why should we expect to be respected if we don’t show that same consideration? And how can we do this if we don’t understand or are misinformed?

This is one of the reasons for a new series I’m starting in today’s paper on religions in Nodaway County. Surveys were sent out to approximately 50 churches, asking their leaders to answer a few basic questions about their church organization and religion. Questions about their basic beliefs, what people misunderstand about them and so on.

In the coming weeks, I hope this series will help enlighten readers (and myself) about the different religious offerings in our community, hopefully in an effort to build mutual respect for one another.

Gordon B. Hinckley said: “Each of us [from various religious denominations] believes in the fatherhood of God, although we may differ in our interpretations of Him. Each of us is part of a great family, the human family, sons and daughters of God, and therefore brothers and sisters. We must work harder to build mutual respect, an attitude of forbearance, with tolerance one for another regardless of the doctrines and philosophies which we may espouse.”

From the information I have gathered, most Nodaway County residents practice Christianity, so that’s what this series will focus on; however, I would hope that it might be a spark that provides us the desire to learn about other world religions. Islam, Hinduism, Judaism, Buddhism… to embark on a journey of understanding not dissimilar to that of “Siddhartha,” where Hermann Hesse wrote:

“It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.”


Marching for a cause: program to celebrate Maryville ladies band

One hundred years after Alma Nash signaled the downbeat and her band began to play, quieting the unruly crowds gathered at the Women’s Suffrage Parade in Washington, DC, a group of Maryville High School young women will present a program to celebrate the achievement.

The Nodaway County Historical Society will host a Ladies Band Program at 2 pm, Sunday, March 3, at the museum, 110 North Walnut, Maryville.

The program will highlight the Missouri Ladies Military Band of Maryville who marched on March 3, 1913, the only all-women band to march and perform in the suffrage parade that day.

The event will feature 11 MHS students performing music as well as the opportunity to see a new exhibit at the museum on Nash.

Women’s Suffrage Parade

As the parade began in front of the Capitol Building on that day in early March, a crowd of heckling and resentful men refused to let the marchers move forward. The crowd, estimated at around 250,000, overwhelmed the police in the area.

That’s when Nash and her band began to play, quieting the crowd, and the parade moved ahead without incident.

Nash later told a Maryville reporter: “We did not have time to stop and think about the really important thing we did do when our band led the parade down Pennsylvania Avenue. We were not right in the lead when the parade started; a number of women escorts, a number of walking officers of the National Equal Suffrage Association, with our band following, was the order when we first started.

“We had gone but a short distance when the crowd started closing up toward the line of the parade, and men blockaded a place in the street a short distance ahead. One of the suffrage officers came rushing back to us and told us to march on ahead and lead; that it would be necessary for the band to open the way proved true.

“We were not molested in the least, and although the march was slow on account of the crowds, no one offered to stand in our way down the avenue.

“These women were part of one of many remarkable stands for women’s suffrage.”

Ladies Band

Several years before the parade, in 1905, Nash opened the Maryville School of Banjo, Mandolin and Guitar. Five years later, she organized an all-ladies concert band and then transformed that band into the first all-ladies marching band.

During this time, as women were strongly petitioning for suffrage, the leaders of several women’s groups decided to organize a parade in Washington to call more attention to their cause. The parade on March 3 was to precede the inauguration of President-elect Woodrow Wilson the following day.

The Maryville band members jumped at the opportunity to join in the suffragette cause.

A new discovery

An old, worn picture has been in Joyce Holt’s possession for many years, although she didn’t realize its significance until recently.

“It’s been in my old album forever, but I didn’t know what it was,” the 87-year-old Maryville resident said. “It just said Alma Nash and the Maryville band.”

Then a couple of weeks ago, Holt ran into Melissa Middleswart, a longtime friend and volunteer at the museum who had been busy planning the Ladies Band Program. And while discussing the event, the conversation soon turned to the photo.

They began to wonder if Holt’s mother, Edith Davenport, had been a member of the band since she was in possession of the photo.

After doing some digging, it was discovered that Davenport was a member of the band and involved in the local suffragette cause. However, for some unknown reason, she did not make the trip to march with the women in Washington.

Edith Davenport

Holt knows very little about her mother, just stories her grandmother and others have told her, because she died a few weeks after giving birth to her.

Davenport was born on April 15, 1895, and grew up in Maryville. She was a country school teacher and was a part of Nash’s band in her late teenage years.

“I always knew she played the piano beautifully,” Holt said.

In addition to the photo of the band, Holt also has a postcard her mother sent to her grandmother on February 13, 1914, when she was 18 years old. She wrote that she would not be home that night as she was “debating women’s suffrage.”

“Grandma never talked about suffrage being a big deal,” Holt said. “But she was trying to eek out a living and raise five kids.”

But it was obviously of great importance to Davenport. Holt also has a photo of her mother standing on a rock that’s painted with the words “Votes for Women.”

Suffragette Cause

In the book “Suffrage Comes to the Women of Nodaway County, MO,” Martha Cooper wrote: “The Missouri Ladies Military Band of Maryville did not initially set out to be the nation’s first all-female suffragist marching band, but the young women were in the right place at the right moment to take this place in history.”

It would be seven more years after the Missouri Ladies Military Band marched in the Women’s Suffrage Parade that women were finally granted the right to vote.

One member of the band, Maye Shipps Corrough, on hearing the good news while at the Arkoe general store, said: “I got up on the counter and danced!”

Corrough’s trombone is on display at the museum and will be available for viewing following the Ladies Band Program on March 3. The event is free, but donations are welcome. Refreshments will also be served.

The museum reopens from its winter closing on March 5 with regular hours of 1 to 4 pm, Tuesday through Friday, or by appointment.

For more information about the program, call Middleswart at 660.582.8687.

Information for this article came from a 1966 Kansas City Star article, “Tribute to a Music Teacher: Her Ladies Band Helped Suffragette Cause,” a 1984 KC Star-Times article, “Woman played to beat the ban on vote,” “Suffrage comes to the women of Nodaway County, MO” by Martha Cooper, and the Missouri Women blog. Special thanks to Melissa Middleswart and Joyce Holt.


Planning Christmas with Pinterest: decorations

Preparing for the holidays can sometimes feel overwhelming. The decorating, the creating, the baking. Then there’s the shopping to do and the wrapping. Add in the church services, parties and programs to attend and hosting get-togethers with families and friends.

The list of things to plan seems endless. And coming up with new ideas each year gets more and more difficult.

Here’s where Pinterest can help. The social media site lets users browse, share and organize things and ideas on the web. They can pin their interests on virtual bulletin boards.

Quitman resident Erin Mullins said she uses Pinterest to get ideas for crafts, cooking and photography and is a valuable tool around the holidays.

“With Christmas coming up, it’s a perfect spot to find something new,” Mullins said. “I usually give cookies or little gifts to my friends and neighbors and sometimes it’s hard to find new ideas so that you’re not giving the same thing each year. I’ve already pinned several ideas that I plan on using this year.”

Parnell resident Brooke Gray has also been busy this year pinning ideas she plans to use.

“I am using Pinterest ideas for Christmas gifts to save money and to get away from the commercial Christmas that so many are wrapped up in,” Gray said.

To help you out with your Christmas planning this year, the Nodaway News Leader has pinned a variety of ideas on our boards at pinterest.com/nodawaynews.

Decorations

The first way the NNL can help you this holiday season is with decorating. Our “Planning Christmas Decorations” board has a variety of decorating pins, from jingle bells and shiny balls to hanging stockings, jolly snowman and trees with all the trimmings. Check out pinterest.com/nodawaynews/planning-christmas-decorations.

Here are a few of those pins:

Seasons Greetings Wreath

This Seasons Greetings Wreath is from the Seasons of Joy blog. It can be made using many materials from a dollar store at a cost of around $16.

Items needed include a grapevine wreath, off-white spray paint, baby’s breath, a bird nest, birds, transparent off-white ribbon and ornaments.

For step-by-step instructions or more information, visit deckthehalls-christmas.blogspot.com/2011/11/seasons-greetings-wreath.html.

Mantle Decorations

There are endless ways to decorate a mantle during the holidays and Holly Mathis Interiors has one idea using fresh greenery.

Starting with the greens, she added natural wood nutcrackers, plaid bows, burlap stockings and a large canvas picture with a Christmas phrase printed on it.

To read more about this idea, visit hollymathisinteriors.com/2011/12/welcome-christmas-tour.

Decorating Your Tree

These tips to help decorate your tree like a professional come from The Yellow Cap Cod website.

Designer Sarah Macklem says there are no rules when it comes to holiday decorating but it’s all about family traditions. Still, she has a few guidelines to get you started which include using the right bulbs, colors and textures of ornaments, finding graphic elements like the large snowflakes and adding unusual elements like the framed monogram.

For more about her ideas, visit theyellowcapecod.com/2011/11/holiday-home-series-tips-decorate-your.html.


Prop B could add thousands to Nodaway County schools each year

“That they might have joy” column by Jacki Wood

I’m not one to get political here in this column. After all, the purpose of it is to have more joy. And I don’t usually associate politics with joy, especially during election season.

However, I cover school news here in Nodaway County, which does bring me a lot of joy, and I’ve been hearing a lot of information on Prop B at the school board meetings I cover. Specifically, how it will impact our local schools.

There are two sides to every story and I’m sure you’ve watched, read and heard both sides. The health and education people want you to vote yes for a variety of reasons. And the convenience store folks and those for no new taxes and smaller government want you to vote no for a variety of other reasons.

Here’s the issue…

The American Cancer Society brought the initiative forward to reduce smoking and improve healthcare in the state.

Missouri has the lowest cigarette tax in the US at 17¢ per pack, well below the national average of $1.49 per pack.

There are approximately 10,000 deaths each year in Missouri related to tobacco use. We also have the 11th highest smoking rate in the country and the eighth highest rate for lung cancer deaths. Additionally, more than 8,600 Missouri youth start smoking each year (Missouri Foundation for Health).

If passed…

Prop B would increase the current cigarette tax to 90¢ a pack, the roll-your-own tobacco products by 25 percent and other tobacco products like chewing tobacco by 15 percent.

The Missouri State Auditor’s office estimates an increase in state revenues of $283 to $423 billion every year. It would also create the Health and Education Trust Fund, with 50 percent going to support public schools, 30 percent to higher education and 20 percent for tobacco prevention and cessation programs.

According to the Missouri Association of School Administrators, here’s how some of our Nodaway County schools would benefit each year if Prop B is passed:

West Nodaway: $36,000 to 55,000

South Nodaway: $28,767 to $42,998

North Nodaway: $35,604 to $53,217

Nodaway-Holt: $35,500 to $53,100

Maryville: $221,508 to $331,087

Funds can be used in the following ways: teacher recruitment, retention, salaries or professional development; school construction, renovation or leasing; technology enhancements, textbooks or instructional materials; school safety; or supplying additional funding for required state and federal programs.

It has also been projected that Northwest Missouri State University could receive nearly $3 million each year.

Opponents have expressed concern about how this money will be used, citing the ineffectiveness of the casino revenue for education.

However, safeguards not used in the past have been put into place with the law requiring all money to be treated as new funding, not used to replace existing money spent on education. It will also be audited annually.

I have several concerns about the issue. I generally want less government, not more. I’m not one hundred percent sure the wording will help keep the funding going to where it’s supposed to go. And I don’t think the increased taxes will cause more smokers to give it up.

But I do have hope that educating our youth will be beneficial. And I also know that our schools are hurting and desperately need this additional funding.

So, whatever you decide about the issue, please get out there and exercise your right to vote.


A jury of their peers: Service of 12 leaves lasting impact

“All rise,” the bailiff bellows, echoing throughout the dark and dated courtroom. “The court is now again in session.”

Members of the jury file in slowly and take their seats in the jury box.

Draped in a long, black robe, the judge asks everyone to please be seated.

The long, wooden benches creak as those in the audience try to get comfortable once again.

Lawyers shuffle papers and whisper with one another, comparing notes before the bantering begins.

“It’s inherently dramatic,” Nodaway County Prosecuting Attorney Robert Rice said. “Sometimes you’ll work six months or over a year on a single case. And then you get 12 people who have never heard anything about it and they have to make a decision that impacts (a person’s) life. There are significant consequences.”

Right…to a jury trial

The jury system in the United States can be traced back to 12th Century England when King Henry II used a jury for their knowledge of a particular case. It evolved in the 15th century when Henry VI turned the jury into the trier of the evidence.

The colonists brought these ideals with them to America and the right to a jury trial was included in all 13 of the original states’ constitutions and in the Sixth Amendment to the US Constitution.

The Missouri Constitution grants everyone the right to a trial by jury in both criminal and civil cases (see the adjacent box, Jury Service Glossary). With criminal cases, this right only applies to serious crimes, which carry a potential sentence of more than six months.

Right…here in Nodaway County

The Nodaway County Courthouse sits in the very center of Maryville on the downtown square and very nearly the center of the county.

Built in 1881, the red brick structure, trimmed in sandstone with a renovated cupola and clock tower, stands as a beacon of the county and has been listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

Once visitors make the climb up the large marble stairs to the second floor, they are advised to turn off cell phones and pagers and have no food or drink before entering either one of the Nodaway County Circuit Court courtrooms.

On this particular fall day, a civil case is being heard by Circuit Judge Roger Prokes and jurors have just returned from a lunch break.

Five men. Seven women. Ranging in age from their early 20s to their 70s. One alternate. A man in his 30s.

Yellow badges identify each juror with a number, not their names.

Some look around at the audience. Some grab notepads to resume notetaking. Some look out the windows to the world outside.

And then the case resumes once again.

Right…time for civic responsibility

Serving on a jury can be seen as a civic responsibility. For Thomas Jefferson, it was more important than all other civic duties including voting.

“I consider trial by jury as the only anchor yet imagined by man by which a government can be held to the principles of its constitution.”

Today, the jury system continues to depend on the service of American citizens.

While a jury trial can be inconvenient for many, Rice believes it’s important for a community to have them.

“A jury trial is a lot of people putting in a lot of time and it’s inconvenient for a lot of folks,” Rice said. “But I think we do that, though, so people are kept accountable whenever they do wrong.”

Editor’s note: this is the first in a series about jury trials. In the coming weeks, we’ll explore the role of jurors, the trial process and more. Some information for this article came from the Missouri Bar Association, mobar.org, and the Missouri Courts System, courts.mo.gov.


This summer’s road trip was monumental, part 2

“Wandering alongside the Woods” column by Jacki Wood

Unlike any road trip I’ve planned before, this summer’s adventure to Washington DC involved implementing as many technological goodies as I could get my hands on.

We would’ve been lost, literally, without our iPhones and Google Maps, which provide step-by-step instructions to your destination, no GPS device needed, and a map view that follows your location automatically.

There are so many apps available. And so easy to download new ones along the way, like a SmartGuide for the National Mall and another for the US Capitol.

For several years now, one of my most used tools has been Gas Buddy, where you can find the most recent gas prices in a particular location. My favorite feature is the gas price heat map, which allows you to see prices on a map of the entire country or specific region. I use it to figure out where to stop along a 300-mile stretch of the interstate, not just the most inexpensive place in town.

A new app I downloaded this year was Best Parking which helps you find the cheapest and most convenient parking near you or a certain location.

Road Trip Tweet: Just used the Best Parking app for the first time. Found a great place to park. Very easy, too. Highly recommend.

I also used my iPhone to tweet about our road trip, update my Facebook status, check the weather on the Weather Channel’s app and take photos. We didn’t even take a camera, just used our phones and the iPad, which took beautiful pictures. I also used Instagram, which real photographers say they hate, but I loved being able to play with how the photos looked.

Another app that got a lot of use was foursquare which helps you make the most of where you are by checking in at a certain location. You can receive discounts at restaurants and shops and also read tips from others. This was helpful at the Tomb of the Unknowns during the Changing of the Guard. After checking in, I read a tip that suggested standing in a certain location for the best view of the ceremony. And it was right.

At the Flight 93 Memorial, I used my QR Code Scanner to listen to informative messages that enhanced the displays at the site. It enabled us to learn more of the stories about those involved.

During my planning, I also used Pinterest to get a few new ideas. I mentioned the snack boxes in a previous column. They were a huge hit. I also created travel books that included games, paper for journaling and drawing and maps of our route. I broke these down into 1-2 hour segments so the kids could follow along. You can find these and other ideas on my Pinterest “road trips” board at pinterest.com/nnlreporter.

One last app I want to mention, released just two weeks ago, is the Food Network on the Road app. We love visiting places featured on Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives and this app contains restaurants from it and other Food Network shows. You can search by location, chef or show. I can’t wait to use it on our next trip.

And speaking of food, we were treated to some great finds.

As recommended in a DC travel guide, we hit Ben’s Chili Bowl. Described as a Washington landmark, it’s served a multitude of celebrities including Bill Cosby, who now has a menu item named after him: Bill Cosby’s Original Chili Half-Smoke. It was heavenly. The place was crazy busy and was a cultural must-see for me.

Two Triple D restaurants were also planned. The Tortilla Cafe, serving Salvadoran food like pupusas, was a disappointment for us, especially since we can get really great pupusas at La Paz in Marshall. However, Tune Inn Restaurant was wickedly (read: unhealthy) delicious. The mozzarella sticks were the size of my hand and the french fries were perfect and crispy. The deep-fried burger (yes, I did say this was an unhealthy stop along the way) was amazing. And we topped it off with fried cheesecake.

We usually order a few things and then everyone shares. It may not be proper etiquette to pass around dishes but we feel it’s more important to experience the food.

We also ate at Gadsby’s Tavern in Old Town Alexandria with Larry’s nephew and family. Serving Colonial food since 1770, the tavern was frequented by presidents like George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, James Madison and James Monroe.

Road Trip Tweet: Gadsby’s, old town Alexandria: food was good (not great) but experience was phenomenal & “John Wall” was delightfully entertaining.

It was a fun atmosphere which included a roaming Colonial character named John Wall whose extensive vocabulary required a dictionary to understand his humor. I ate “George Washington’s favorite meal” of duck, scalloped potatoes, corn pudding and rhotekraut (a cabbage, current and apple dish), Larry had the prime rib and Yorkshire pudding and the kids had fish and chips.

There were a few familial bumps along the road, but this summer’s trip was indeed monumental. And tons of fun.

Our next family trip is just around the corner. We’re driving to South Bend, IN, in October to watch BYU play at Notre Dame. Experience of a lifetime for me. I can’t wait. Go Cougars!


This summer’s road trip was monumental, part 1

“Wandering alongside the Woods” column by Jacki  Wood

“Think about what you saw.”

Those words hang on a banner outside the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum. It can be found on posters throughout the building and on T-shirts, pens, magnets and other memorabilia inside the gift shop.

Their slogan tries to get you to act upon what you saw during your visit. And I love it. But for our family, it actually encompassed much of what we did on our annual summer road trip.

Our destination: Washington, DC. History, government, visiting family and eating good food was on the agenda.

Our journey: Memorable. Monumental, even, mostly because I saw more monuments in a week than I probably have in my entire life, not just in DC but Gettysburg, too.

In the weeks since we’ve been home, I haven’t been able to get that phrase out of my mind.

Think about what you saw. We saw a lot. We crammed a lot into each day. It affected us in many different ways. Not just at the Holocaust Museum but everywhere we went. And it started in the car as we began the trip east.

Road Trip Tweet: We’re listening to The Diary of Anne Frank while driving in preparation for visiting the Holocaust Museum later this week.

I spend a good amount of time making a detailed agenda prior to each road trip, doing a lot of research and getting ideas from others who have been there before. And this time was no different.

But you know one of the things I like most about road trips? Flexibility. The ability to change it up a bit. And we did that on more than one occasion this summer.

Driving through Indiana, my husband saw a sign for the Hoosier gym where my favorite movie, “Hoosiers,” was filmed. So we pulled off to see it. Unfortunately, it wasn’t open yet; fortunately, Larry stopped again on our way home when it was open. We took a tour and I even got to shoot baskets in the gym where Coach Norman Dale inspired those players on that legendary team.

We had another amazing opportunity to veer off our path when we saw a sign for the Flight 93 National Memorial near Shanksville, PA. The new national park memorializes the passengers and crew who bravely overtook the 9/11 hijackers when they learned what was happening in New York and at the Pentagon on that dreadful day.

I had no idea we would be anywhere near the site. It was a very emotional experience for me, remembering back to that day and the courage shown by those 40 individuals.

Road Trip Tweet: An unplanned but memorable and moving stop along the way @ Flight 93 National Memorial.

Take the 14-mile drive off of I-70. You won’t regret it.

It set us back a bit and we didn’t see as much as we intended, but it was worth it and we’re already making plans for our next trip.

Our first stop in DC was the US Capitol Building. Someone suggested we contact our senator or representative for a tour beforehand. We did and our tour was much more personal and in-depth than the masses around us.

Other highlights of the week included Arlington National Cemetery and the Changing of the Guard at the Tomb of the Unknowns, Lincoln Memorial, Washington Monument, WWII Memorial, Vietnam Veterans Memorial and the National Air and Space Museum (Hunter was in heaven).

One of the things I found fascinating was all of the quotes on the monuments and walls everywhere we went.

As I try to reflect and “think about what we saw,” perhaps the one quote that impressed me most was one I’d never read before.

It was at the Air and Space Museum next to a portrait of World War II Tuskegee Airmen Commander Benjamin O. Davis Jr., who said:

“The privileges of being an American belong to those brave enough to fight for them.”

Part 2 will include our fun food finds and the many technological helps we used along the way.


fun & games: Bunco girls gather for good times

Good friends. Good laughs. Good times. Bunco.

It’s printed on their black T-shirts with hot pink lettering.

But it’s more than just a catchy saying.

After 10 years, the expression rings true for this group of local women. Good friends gathering for a good time with a lot of good laughs playing a game called Bunco.

Playing together

Dice roll across wooden tabletops and echo throughout the room. The occasional bell rings. There’s talking. And laughter. Loads of laughter.

A group of local women began playing Bunco a little over 10 years ago. They live in several Nodaway County communities and include Julie Acklin, Rita Carroll, Keitha Clapp, Amy Derr, Nichole Dew, Pat Giesken, Melissa Grace, Diana Heitman, Shannon Heitman, Deb Henggeler, Becky Jones, Patty Neal, Marsha Price, Liz Schieber, Lori Snead and Barb Walk.

The idea for the Bunco group started with Price, who had a friend in college who played the game. She thought it would be fun to start a group here.

“Several years later, we finally had enough friends to play,” she said.

With most of the original members still, they get together the second Friday of each month and rotate hostesses and homes.

Outside of Bunco, some of the women work together, some play sports together and some of their children are friends, too.

The game’s history

According to the World Bunco Association, the game was originally called 8-Dice Cloth in the 1700s in England. It first came to the US in 1855 by a crooked gambler in San Francisco who called it Banco. A few years later, the name was changed to Bunco or Bunko.

From the 1880s until the 1920s, the game changed from one of gambling and swindling to a traditional family or parlor game with Bunco groups consisting of 8-12 people and even up to 20 who enjoyed an evening of fun, friendly competition and conversation. During the roaring ‘20s, Bunco gambling parlors became popular once again, but after prohibition, interest in the game declined.

Bunco made a resurgence in the 1980s and its following has increased steadily ever since.

Traditionally, most Bunco gatherings include 12 players with three tables of four players each. The game is one of luck, not skill, and is played with three dice. The object is to accumulate points by rolling certain combinations.

Creating memories

Cheers erupt from the girls who have gathered on June 8 at Grace’s home in Burlington Jct. “Bunco!” Clapping, high fives and more laughing.

In the last 10 years of playing, group members have created a lot of memories through their laughing and socializing.

The most unforgettable one came when they were playing at Jones’ house once and her neighbor’s home caught on fire. They donated the winnings that night to the victims of the fire.

In addition to the memories, they’ve also gotten to know each other better.

“When we get together, we tend to sometimes talk more than we play,” Melissa Grace said.

For most – if not all – the conversation takes precedence over the game, asking questions about one another’s families, children, jobs and lives.

“I come just to see these people,” Jones said. “Because I’m not very good at the game.”

And, of course, more laughter ensued.

For more information on Bunco, visit worldbunco.com.